Sunday, September 9, 2012

"Making Moves"

Nothing stops you more than all the little monsters your mind creates, especially when it comes to persuing your goals.

Today, I took a chance and I noticed that the more you do something the more comfortable you become. The challenge to make this video, (which needed to be within a minute), made me laugh, got me upset, made me feel insecure, had me saying things that I didn't even know where it came from but most importantly it made me feel confident to keep striving and enjoy the experience.

Enjoy Take 1:

This was by far the funniest video, my husband and I could not stop laughing. I don't think anyone can talk over a toddler. Man, this little one was persistent and needed to get her point across. She gave me a life lesson with her persistency LOL!


Take 2:

I got stuck!!!!! But kept going to make my final video


And, the final video which hopefully will lead, WINNING!!!!! Wish me luck and I hope you enjoy. Please don't be shy, leave your comments on the YouTube post.

Julia S Gutierrez

Tuesday, August 28, 2012

"Snickers Time"

Weather it's your favorite chocolate snack or not, you have to admit Snickers commercials have some humor and their slogans are catchy. I on the other hand have found a new respect for this chewy & nutty chocolate bar, I call it: Snicker time! It's that deep breathe get away from it all moment, you know that quiet time you look for when you come home after a hectic day of work or even the alone time you long for after dealing with the kids.

It started with a visit from one of my sister in laws, she came over to see the newborn with the "clan" as we call our family, to see my newborn. After hearing five kids playing, screaming and fighting and two husbands going at it with a competitive game of Madden, we decided to take a quick trip to the store. She had the great idea of getting a snickers bar. So we paid, got into the van, split the bar between us  and enjoyed it as if we were two kids who were doing something mischievous, laughing the whole time. We both knew what the other was thinking: no screaming kids, or loud husbands. Just two Mommies sitting there enjoying a piece of chocolate without having to share....aaaahhhhh, so delicious.

A few weeks later Jimmy, my husband and I were doing seperate errands and suddenly we came across the same path as we headed home. To my amazement, guess what I see him devouring??? Yes, a snickers bar! After my deed, I had mentioned my little secret to my husband as if admitting a crime I had committed. But as we walked in together, we both just laughed as he gave me my due half. I'm sure he needed that "snickers time" especially having being in a house surrounded by all females. I know I definitely look forward to some alone time with my snickers bar after dealing with three kids who are all under the age of five!

No, I do not have any endorsement deals with Snickers yet. But after all that is said and done, my true favorite venture with this delicious chocolate bar is sitting in the van with my two precious princesses asking for a piece of Mommy's favorite chocolate. There is nothing more satisfying than breaking one bar into four little pieces for my clan, aaaahhhhhh.

Julia S Gutierrez

Sunday, June 24, 2012

Reevaluating Your Goals!

We're entering the second week of summer and many are excited to go show off what they have worked so hard for the past 6 months. Others, well they are thinking what is the fastest way to get toned or to shed away a few pounds. Weather your "New Years Resolution" was to get toned for the summer or to get started on a new career, there is still time to get started or finish with whatever your goal was set to be. I'm here to get you back on track with this video from Anthony Robbins I came across.

But, think about this for a moment, most of the time people set their "New Year's Resolution" they never go back to reevaluate where they are with their goals. One of the most important things when setting these "resolutions" is to see them written down daily and visualizing yourself to get them done. At this point, you're six months in and can't make up for lost time but what you can do is REEVALUATE. Reevaluate where you are with that goal you set, look at how far you have come to meet those goals. Maybe you exceeded what you wanted to achieve and you can start thinking of new goals or maybe you completely forgot what you set yourself out to complete this year. It's all about your attitude, keep it as positive as you can especially when it comes to YOU! As I like to say, "What you expect, is what you will get." I hope I got you excited enough with this little reminder to get yourself back on track with your goals. 

Now, take 30 min and listen to this video. Remember it's NEVER too late to achieve your goals. Enjoy the prosperity!

Julia S Gutierrez

Friday, June 15, 2012

"Be Grateful for All and Everything You Have"

In life, there are experiences you go through. Some will help you see things in a different perspective. I hope that by reading the following experience you realize that being grateful isn't just realizing what you have but also finding a way to help those in need.

About a year ago, a friend asked me to attend a charity event to help a school in need. Due to the devastating earthquake Haiti had experienced in 2010, they lost many things including family and friends. I didn't think twice about attending, but I was captivated by the fact that my friend was going to make a trip to Haiti and help those in need. Well, she kept her word, she made the trip and came back with a different view on life. This is her view:
Back home, every day I manage to find at least one thing to complain about; just one thing in my selfish mind that I feel I will die without. I have lived my life searching for material things that will feed my life and make it complete, but those things never seemed to fulfill me. I have good health,  a stable job, a home, food on the table everyday (and not just once a day), great friends and a wonderful family, I even have pets. Don't get me wrong, I'm neither rich nor do I live what our society would call a "comfortable life" but I have so much more than many others.  A recent trip to Haiti, taught me a harsh but vital truth: Be grateful for all and everything you have!

We landed! As soon as I stepped out of the aiport the life of Haiti hits me right in the face, it's not shy at all! A nice bus ride to the terminal and a local band playing in the entrance of the terminal gives you a real sense of the country. A country fighting to improve their lives and ways of living. A country, that even though all odds are against them, still dances, laughs and smiles and what smiles they have! 

Now, close your eyes and picture this; the air is dry and dusty. There are buildings, houses, and businesses that have crumbled down or will with any other slight movement of the earth. Picture a ton of communities where a home is only a camping tent and this is if you are fortunate enough to have a roof over your head. Imagine living in a place where running water is a luxury. A place where the main sources of transportation is walking or if you are lucky enough to have some money you can get on a motor taxi or the back of a pick-up truck. Think of taking a bath outside of your home with buckets of water or taking a bath at the nearest river, I mean having to walk a few miles just to wash clothes.  Imagine having to walk to the town plaza, the nearest church ,or the nearest store that has electricity to sit under a light to study for school because at home having electricity is not an option. Can you imagine your life without the essential things you have, water, light, gas, a home and food? Yet everyday we take all these things for granted. Let's go beyond this, think about your life without "the perks" of our everyday life, computer, phones, Internet access, car, shoes, name brand clothes and eating out 2-3 times a week. All of this and we still want more, we are still unsatisfied. Still in the midst of all the needs the people of Haiti have, I see people laughing and being grateful for what they have. People talking and sharing memories amongst each other, children playing, waving to you and as your eyes meet theirs they give you a huge bright sweet smile as if they had no worries in their lives at all. It breaks my heart to see how the people of Haiti live! Yet we're the ones always wanting more and complaining about it. 

Now you may be asking yourself why would I be sharing all of this? What do I want you to do? If you are I'm glad I got your attention! I'm not going to sugar coat it: I'm sharing this because most of us live a very ungrateful life and its time to reevaluate and evolve, it's time to change! 
I am asking two things of you today:

My first one is to be honest with yourself. When was the last time you said, I'm happy, my life is wonderful, I'm the luckiest? Believe me I'm not implying that life does not have it's tough, crappy and at times even heart breaking days. We all go through trauma and obstacles but yet we all have so much more than others. Let's take an oath and promise ourselves to be grateful, even if today the only thing you can be grateful for is another day.

My second thing today is to share some of what you have. Let's stop being selfish. We all struggle, we all have needs, but I bet you can always find someone in more need than you. I know I will not stop hunger by myself or homelessness but I can help. I'm not asking that you take away from your family. Just think of how many things you spend money on every week that you don't absolutely need. The average family now a days eats out 2-3 days a week. Make it 1 day a week and take $50 dollars to give to a needy family. Take one month a year and don't buy any new clothes, shoes, furniture etc and donate the money instead to a charity. It's truly really easy if we stop thinking of our needs only. Believe me the feeling you will receive from helping others will be more rewarding than any new item you can buy for yourself or your family.

Be grateful for all and everything you have!
   Ligia Diaz

Sunday, January 29, 2012

"Confidence through Small Eyes"

While walking the Malls, I always wondered: "What the heck was that parent thinking, letting their kids walk out the house with that outfit on?" I was right in thinking that the parents obviously had no control with these kids, of course I didn't have kids at the time. But, NOW that I have two kids and one on the way I am ready to take on whatever outfit my kids feel confident with. Besides what else can I do, when we really have no control in what our kids say, do or wear, right? I hope you enjoy this story as much as I got to experience it.

It's Friday evening and we're ready to go for a walk at the mall. As we're walking out , Jazmine our 3 year old grabs her pigeon hat, Yes her pigeon hat and puts it on. At this moment, my Husband and I looked at each other and silently giggled, we were both thinking one thing and one thing only, "I hope she's not planning on wearing that in the mall." Yup, she was! So, I said, "Jazzy you can take it but we'll leave it in the car, ok?" She whines "No, I want to wear it, I made it in school" and Daddy says, "Jazzy you can leave it here and wear it when we get back." She didn't cry, she didn't whine but she gave the most unselfish response a kid could give "But Daddy it will make people Happy." We smiled and carried on to the car with the pigeon hat on.

I was taken back by her confidence, for the simple fact that as we start "maturing" we feel like we have to look and do things according to everyone else's standards.
As we walked the mall, she was mistaken for "angry birds," she was laughed at, stared at, questioned, and Jazmine walked around as if nobody existed except her and her hat. At one point she saw someone laughing and she said, "See, it makes them happy." She was focused on her idea of wearing that hat and she did it confidently. 

At the school she currently attends, they are reading stories from Mo Willems ( Please grab your child and enjoy the video below:

Julia S Gutierrez

Thursday, December 29, 2011

Time for a Change!

It's that time of year when many feel like shifting, changing old habits, making new commitments and hoping that their Resolution will be made in no time. Most are reading this saying: "Isn't she a little late in posting this." Well, I'm here to bring some good news. You don't have to wait until the beginning of a New Year in order to start making changes in your life. You have the option to start when you feel it's right for you!

In this world you need to know that everything you do starts with your inner being, it starts with yourself. Any decision you make, you need to make it with confidence, with determination and without FEAR!  You need to know that the decisions you make are made by listening to that inner "God like" voice you have. Although we live in a society that critiques our everyday move, You hold your head up high knowing something great is coming your way, knowing that every choice you make you've made it with confidence.

Please leave your comments below. Soon you will see more post. Thank you!

Thursday, September 22, 2011

"Finding your Happiness"

We live in a world that focus so much on the negative things people do, it's no wonder why so many have lost connection with themselves and their sense of happiness.
After my last article, I asked family, friends, and readers to advise on anything that they wanted to read about. A close friend of mine said "I would like to read about maintaining a sense of happiness ... I'm miserable and can't find it anywhere." The only thing I could reply back was "I can't believe my friend is saying that." I don't know why I couldn't say more, maybe it was me assuming that everything was fine and that she was happy, but I was wrong. This one is for you my Friend, I hope I connect with you and others that have seemed to misplaced their happiness.

What is happiness? According to
Happiness is a mental state of well-being characterized by positive emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. There are no specific details as to what "happiness" really is because only YOU can define what brings you joy. "Remember happiness doesn't depend upon who you are or what you have, it depends solely in what you think," Dale Carnegie. We tend to judge things as we see ourselves not as they are, before you beat yourself up about the things you claim you're not getting enough of, stop for a second and realize how BLESSED you are that you are going through what you have been going through. Why? Because, it's a mental phase, it's something you have control over. Yes, I know there are so many things we go through in life but the sooner we accept it and see the positive in any situation you are in, the sooner you will meet with happiness.

I have lived by the 4:8 Principle for a while, I don't mean to get religious but this principle can be used for the "spiritual" as well, it's based on the book of Philippians. I understood this principle more because of Tommy Newberry, who is an exceptional motivational coach He wrote this book (The 4:8 Principle) which explains ways to focus on the positive things YOU have in your life and you will in turn help you find more happiness.  It's a philosophy that teaches you to accept yourself and to change the way you think when you receive obstacles. It's a method of appreciating everything you have to allow you to enjoy every moment of life in true bliss. If you have a chance I recommend to read this book. Now, lets focus on how we can work on getting and keeping happiness in our life.

The obvious thing is to start with yourself. I would suggest to play detective, go back and think of  certain events that have brought you joy. Try to find out where you lost the connection with yourself and where did all this sorrow begin? As human beings we find it so easy to beat ourselves up, just learn to deal with things and let go of them. The longer you hold them in, the more damage you do to yourself and the harder it is for you to find your happiness. If you can't conclude as to where or how your happiness started fading, get creative, feed your mind and let your soul take you back. Find some quiet time, open up an album and take notice on the many different smiles that appear. Maybe even carry a picture that will help you deal with frustrating events. Recapturing certain events in your life is one of the best ways to stay connected with your inner happiness.
How about your accomplishments? Try to think about different success you have had, create a list that you can glimpse when you are faced with challenges, it could be a promotion, having kids, buying a car or a house etc, etc. This is your happiness and only you can determine how happy you want to be. Something else you can do, which I can never get enough of is to TREAT yourself. Go and indulge on some chocolate if it makes you happy, how about pampering yourself, as women our needs not only consist in hanging with our friends or maintaining our household but also making sure we are well groomed, be it your eyebrows, hair, a manicure or pedicure. A major habit to avoid is having "pity-parties." You know those moments when someone ask "How's it going?" and you tell them everything you have gone through in the last 24 hrs. Let's face it, we have our close friends who are willing to listen to those moments, it's not for everybody to know, in reality most people really don't want to hear about more problems because they have their own they need to deal with. Try this sometime, before you go to someone about an obstacle you are going through, look in a mirror and express your issues out loud, this will allow you to see how "enormous" you have made the issue to be. You must also "realize that the things you read, watch, or listen to and especially the people you choose to associate with either will bring you close to joy or nudge you further away." There are so many things you can do to find your happiness, you just need to search and learn to keep it.

This doesn't mean that you can ignore the things you go through. You can deal with any obstacle that comes your way. Some will be harder to deal with than others but you can choose to make it worst if you focus on worrying, or choose to accept it and make it better by being grateful. Thanking your creator is crucial because it will help you concentrate on your current blessings and even your future blessings. Remember you will receive only what deep down you believe you are worthy of having and Smile, because it confuses everyone. And to my friend I hope by the time you finish reading this you have already found your happiness and are smiling.