"Confidence through Small Eyes"

While walking the Malls, I always wondered: "What the heck was that parent thinking, letting their kids walk out the house with that outfit on?" I was right in thinking that the parents obviously had no control with these kids, of course I didn't have kids at the time. But, NOW that I have two kids and one on the way I am ready to take on whatever outfit my kids feel confident with. Besides what else can I do, when we really have no control in what our kids say, do or wear, right? I hope you enjoy this story as much as I got to experience it.

It's Friday evening and we're ready to go for a walk at the mall. As we're walking out , Jazmine our 3 year old grabs her pigeon hat, Yes her pigeon hat and puts it on. At this moment, my Husband and I looked at each other and silently giggled, we were both thinking one thing and one thing only, "I hope she's not planning on wearing that in the mall." Yup, she was! So, I said, "Jazzy you can take it but we'll leave it in the car, ok?" She whines "No, I want to wear it, I made it in school" and Daddy says, "Jazzy you can leave it here and wear it when we get back." She didn't cry, she didn't whine but she gave the most unselfish response a kid could give "But Daddy it will make people Happy." We smiled and carried on to the car with the pigeon hat on.

I was taken back by her confidence, for the simple fact that as we start "maturing" we feel like we have to look and do things according to everyone else's standards.

As we walked the mall, she was mistaken for "angry birds," she was laughed at, stared at, questioned, and Jazmine walked around as if nobody existed except her and her hat. At one point she saw someone laughing and she said, "See, it makes them happy." She was focused on her idea of wearing that hat and she did it confidently. 


At the school she currently attends, they are reading stories from Mo Willems (http://www.mowillems.com). Please grab your child and enjoy the video below:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V10jhsNIMI8


Julia S Gutierrez

Time for a Change!

It's that time of year when many feel like shifting, changing old habits, making new commitments and hoping that their Resolution will be made in no time. Most are reading this saying: "Isn't she a little late in posting this." Well, I'm here to bring some good news. You don't have to wait until the beginning of a New Year in order to start making changes in your life. You have the option to start when you feel it's right for you!

In this world you need to know that everything you do starts with your inner being, it starts with yourself. Any decision you make, you need to make it with confidence, with determination and without FEAR!  You need to know that the decisions you make are made by listening to that inner "God like" voice you have. Although we live in a society that critiques our everyday move, You hold your head up high knowing something great is coming your way, knowing that every choice you make you've made it with confidence.

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"Finding your Happiness"

We live in a world that focus so much on the negative things people do, it's no wonder why so many have lost connection with themselves and their sense of happiness.
After my last article, I asked family, friends, and readers to advise on anything that they wanted to read about. A close friend of mine said "I would like to read about maintaining a sense of happiness ... I'm miserable and can't find it anywhere." The only thing I could reply back was "I can't believe my friend is saying that." I don't know why I couldn't say more, maybe it was me assuming that everything was fine and that she was happy, but I was wrong. This one is for you my Friend, I hope I connect with you and others that have seemed to misplaced their happiness.

What is happiness? According to http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Happiness
Happiness is a mental state of well-being characterized by positive emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. There are no specific details as to what "happiness" really is because only YOU can define what brings you joy. "Remember happiness doesn't depend upon who you are or what you have, it depends solely in what you think," Dale Carnegie. We tend to judge things as we see ourselves not as they are, before you beat yourself up about the things you claim you're not getting enough of, stop for a second and realize how BLESSED you are that you are going through what you have been going through. Why? Because, it's a mental phase, it's something you have control over. Yes, I know there are so many things we go through in life but the sooner we accept it and see the positive in any situation you are in, the sooner you will meet with happiness.

I have lived by the 4:8 Principle for a while, I don't mean to get religious but this principle can be used for the "spiritual" as well, it's based on the book of Philippians. I understood this principle more because of Tommy Newberry, who is an exceptional motivational coach http://tommynewberry.com He wrote this book (The 4:8 Principle) which explains ways to focus on the positive things YOU have in your life and you will in turn help you find more happiness.  It's a philosophy that teaches you to accept yourself and to change the way you think when you receive obstacles. It's a method of appreciating everything you have to allow you to enjoy every moment of life in true bliss. If you have a chance I recommend to read this book. Now, lets focus on how we can work on getting and keeping happiness in our life.

The obvious thing is to start with yourself. I would suggest to play detective, go back and think of  certain events that have brought you joy. Try to find out where you lost the connection with yourself and where did all this sorrow begin? As human beings we find it so easy to beat ourselves up, just learn to deal with things and let go of them. The longer you hold them in, the more damage you do to yourself and the harder it is for you to find your happiness. If you can't conclude as to where or how your happiness started fading, get creative, feed your mind and let your soul take you back. Find some quiet time, open up an album and take notice on the many different smiles that appear. Maybe even carry a picture that will help you deal with frustrating events. Recapturing certain events in your life is one of the best ways to stay connected with your inner happiness.
How about your accomplishments? Try to think about different success you have had, create a list that you can glimpse when you are faced with challenges, it could be a promotion, having kids, buying a car or a house etc, etc. This is your happiness and only you can determine how happy you want to be. Something else you can do, which I can never get enough of is to TREAT yourself. Go and indulge on some chocolate if it makes you happy, how about pampering yourself, as women our needs not only consist in hanging with our friends or maintaining our household but also making sure we are well groomed, be it your eyebrows, hair, a manicure or pedicure. A major habit to avoid is having "pity-parties." You know those moments when someone ask "How's it going?" and you tell them everything you have gone through in the last 24 hrs. Let's face it, we have our close friends who are willing to listen to those moments, it's not for everybody to know, in reality most people really don't want to hear about more problems because they have their own they need to deal with. Try this sometime, before you go to someone about an obstacle you are going through, look in a mirror and express your issues out loud, this will allow you to see how "enormous" you have made the issue to be. You must also "realize that the things you read, watch, or listen to and especially the people you choose to associate with either will bring you close to joy or nudge you further away." There are so many things you can do to find your happiness, you just need to search and learn to keep it.

This doesn't mean that you can ignore the things you go through. You can deal with any obstacle that comes your way. Some will be harder to deal with than others but you can choose to make it worst if you focus on worrying, or choose to accept it and make it better by being grateful. Thanking your creator is crucial because it will help you concentrate on your current blessings and even your future blessings. Remember you will receive only what deep down you believe you are worthy of having and Smile, because it confuses everyone. And to my friend I hope by the time you finish reading this you have already found your happiness and are smiling.
 

"To Love or not To Love"

Many roam this world with the desire to love and to be loved, to find that person who sweeps you off your feet, gives you butterflies, & makes you blush. It becomes a mission to find that thing called "Love". There are people that experience love more than once, others have the beautiful opportunity to experience it once in their life, but there are those who never have the chance to experience what it feels like to be loved. Why are so many looking for love? Maybe, it's not so much that you need to find love but that you need to learn how to keep Love?

When you finally find your Prince charming/Princess you hear about so much during your childhood, you escape into the world of Love. You know, the world where you can't explain why you feel the way you do, when you get butterflies thinking of the possibility of where this love will go, or those deep sighs you take when you think of that special person, *sigh* love really is special, maybe I just live in a fantasy world, but I like it there. I believe in Love and you can find it if you truly wanted to.

But there is also that dark side of love that unfortunately some have to experience. Within the last couple of years I have dealt with different friends & family members that have gone through so much pain due to choices that they or their partner have made. I listened and wondered how could one find the strength to break through all this pain? There are many that have dealt with betrayal and have dealt with it silently. The trust you have worked so hard to earn has disappeared in a snap. Just like that, you think, "It's over"! You think, "Should I make an attempt to make this work", "Will it be worth it?" It seems like the person that once made you feel like you were the only one in the world, now makes you feel like you don't exist. The cycle changes, love becomes loathe! Between the two so much has been accumulated and slowly a cycle of disrespect occurs. What is it that leads to all this, Is it the spark that was once there and has slowly diminished? Is it boredom, in search of excitement? These are things only the person that caused the pain can answer. I read something in a recent blog that I found sums up a lot (http://kokheechng.blogspot.com/2011/05/letting-go.html)  "Within a soul, what matters is how you feel for them and not how they feel for you." If you have gone through this process of betrayal I ask you to make a decision based on your Love for that person. If they hurt you and you are willing to start fresh and really find it in your heart to forgive & forget, Do it! At some point in your new relationship with this person you will find your "Aha" moment, where you will realize that this person made a terrible mistake & wishes that they could take it back, but can't. Some don't care to make things better, others will fight! They'll fight hard to make it work because they have found their peace, whatever it may be for them but they have found it.  They fight because they know that the Love they feel for this person is still there and is waiting to shine again.

How do you determine if it will ever be the same? It won't! But as they say: "It's a new day" Whose to tomorrow will come?  Face it: You'll never understand why the person did what they did. So you have many choices to choose from: Do you want to wonder all your life if you will ever find true love again? Are you willing to loose a few years in search of love and maybe end up with the same person, all due to love? Whatever you decide to do, nobody will ever understand but they don't need to. If people learned to stay out of others relationships, there would be a lot more happier couples.
As my father's days were coming to an end, he would always say: "If I'm going to die, I want to die Happy" So, I will end with that: Whatever you decide to do, make sure you are happy!


Julia S Gutierrez
gutzy27@yahoo.com


Disclosure: If the shoe fits wear it!
This blog is not intended in judging anyone. It's Julia's point of view. Her mission is to be the best she can be & help others achieve that goal. Thank you!

"Reason behind Magnetizinglife"

I have decided to write about the name I chose for this blog: "magnetizinglife". We all know what a magnet does, but I wanted to confirm that I was on track and this is what I came across:http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Magnet
A permanent magnet is an object made from a material that is magnetized and creates its own persistent magnetic field. An everyday example is a refrigerator magnet used to hold notes on a refrigerator door. 
My goal is to help others "magnetize" positive results to their life experiences. Although we may go through things in life that we can't control, the outcome will be based on how you act or think of the situation. I have always believed that the things you have in your life have been magnetized by You, as it states in http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Magnet, "magnets, create it's own persistent magnetic field."


This blog is intended to help you magnetize greatness, happiness, & positiveness. The more you learn how to do that, the more positive things will come to you, It's all in the way you see things you go through. This blog is not intended for you to continuously stay in a rut, so if you think everything in your life is crap and don't believe things will change, than this is not the blog for you to follow. So, stand like a refrigerator full of positive thoughts and let the universe magnetize all the great things you deserve.


Julia S Gutierrez
gutzy27@yahoo.com


Disclosure: If the shoe fits wear it!
This blog is not intended in judging anyone. It's Julia's point of view. Her mission is to be the best she can be & help others achieve that goal. Thank you!